All over the world, folks have been responding to the case of a nine-year-old Brazilian girl who was impregnated with twins by her stepfather. The stepfather has admitted to raping the child for years (along with her physically disabled sister). Abortion in Brazil is illegal except in cases of rape and to save the mother's life. Given that the nine-year-old weighed only 80 pounds, doctors and the child's mother decided that this case met both criteria. Despite a lawsuit filed by Catholic bishops intending to stop them, the doctors performed an abortion on the nine-year-old girl. Bishops then decreed that this was a case of automatic excommunication for the mother and doctors that facilitated the abortion; the nine-year-old, being a minor, was spared being cut off from the faith.
The Church made no such excommunication or spiritual threats or lawsuits against the man who raped his stepdaughter.
Of all the chatter, two of the best responses to this awful, awful situation come from Mary E. Hunt and Frances Kissling at Religion Dispatches. Both women are Catholics and feminists.
My sadness in this case comes not only from what has been done in the name of God to people who are living a nightmare, but from what might have been done to help. Sexual abuse, especially incest, is hard to stop. But once perpetrated it need not be made worse by ecclesial sanction.
A proper pastoral response would include: support for the pregnant child as she lives through an abortion; care for the mother who is responsible for the child and the rest of the family; protection for the family from the stepfather whose arrest may trigger backlash behavior; sensitive work with the other daughter who has also been sexually abused; HIV and venereal disease testing for the girls and the mother; economic support for the family; counseling for the family, the community, even the neighbors and parishioners who have been affected by this trauma; prayer and pastoral attention, including reception of the sacraments according to the family’s wishes. They need a spiritual community more than ever. Instead they got excommunication. “Is there anyone among you, who if your child asks for bread, will give a stone?” (Matthew 7:9). Apparently there are several in Rome and Brazil.
A friend of mine have shared an email conversation about this case. What follows in the rest of the entry are the (adapted) thoughts of mine that I shared with him:
... I don't doubt that many people oppose legal abortion out of sincere, thoughtful, spiritually-grounded belief. At the same time, I believe that the supporting
legal abortion also deserves to be respected as a sincere, thoughtful,
spiritually-grounded beliefs.
Such an extreme case as this nine-year-old's is worth considering: given
the trauma and the very literal risk of death that going through a
pregnancy would bring, how is it wise for the government (in a blanket ban
on abortion, for example) or the Church (by threatening to basically
cut off access to God) to determine that the potential life within her
is more valuable then her living, breathing existence? Have we really
come to a place where we'd say to this kid's face that it is worth
risking her life to give what is then in embryo form a shot at life?
I
value the idea of early pregnancy being potential life. But it really
isn't the same thing as living breathing human beings with independent
bodies, not yet, and if it comes down to the value of the mother versus
the value of the fetus, I'll choose the mother every time.
I'm
interested in the point you and your friend brought up, about the idea
of extreme stories like this one being used to make a political point
one way or another. I agree that the line between sharing stories like
this (and I do think they should be shared if the people concerned are
willing) and exploitation is a thin one. Likewise, the same can be seen
by the pro-life movement in using the stories of women who regret their
abortions as indicative that every person in every situation who has an
abortion will suffer terrible trauma and guilt and misery and so on. In
my experience, this is simply not true and it's tiring in its use as a
scare tactic. I'm sure there are women who had abortions who regret
them, and I feel awful about it; nobody should be pressured into a
situation to have one if it's not right by them/their doctors/their
conscience/their God. But likewise I don't think it's right to pressure
people into births that aren't right by them/their doctors/their
conscience/their God.
And this is the heart of the pro-choice movement:
it validates the right of a person to be pro-life, to not ever have an
abortion, to advocate and agitate to keep others from having them. But
it leaves room for people to make other choices if it is right for them
and their situation. It adapts to the infinitely unique people and
circumstances out there, rather than imposing a one-size-fits all
system. Maybe stories like this one are exceptions (god, I hope so).
But they happen. Regularly. Surely more than you or I know (oh, fickle
media). And how are we to respond if we are to leave no breathing room
whatsoever for responding to the real life person at hand who is
suffering? It feels almost colonialist, to impose one group of people's
will and moral code on another.
The
thing with stories like this, while being extreme, is that they tend to
put the overarching issues and pressures in high relief. I'm appalled
that the Catholic Church
went out of its way to excommunicate the people who were trying to live
their consciences and help this kid (as I'm sure you agree, even if you
disagree with their ultimate actions), while ...
not a word is said about the man who raped her for three years and
impregnated her. Likewise, I'm appalled by the Catholic Church
excommunicating Fr. Bourgeois for supporting women's rights to be
priests (not to mention excommunicating the women who get ordained)
with such efficiency, when nothing was done about the priests who
abused children for so long; in fact the Church enabled them by moving
them along.
There
are many things I love about the Catholic Church. Deeply. But when it reveals
its priorities in "extreme" situations like these, I can't ignore it.
Again and again, the people who are really trying to live their
consciences to the best they can are pushed out, while the people who
perpetuate the most egregious violence (the kind we all agree is truly
violent on people we all agree are real life living human beings) are
enabled and excused.
Why?
I cannot replicate the Church's
behavior in my own actions. That is, I can't enable or excuse its use
of spiritual threats and its way of throwing weight around in ways that
I believe actively harm human beings. And I'm troubled by those who do
("oh well, it's the Church") because that gives it permission to
continue. When is the limit? ...
The church has the right and responsibility to do what they know is right. It is absurd to think that this doctor shouldn't have to answer to his church for what he has done - he has chosen his job over the church, so why is he so upset now?
Abortion is described by the few women I've met who will talk about it (because you see no matter what the circumstances women feel horribly ashamed of their abortions) - all describe their abortions as feeling like they were raped. Women who have been raped describe the abortion as a second rape.
So besides the fact that abortion does kill a human life. Do you want be involved in raping this poor child again? Because no matter how much you all say you want to "help" this girl, raping her again is what you are doing.
Posted by: Clint Mahoney | March 11, 2009 at 08:38 AM
As far as the stepfather not being excommunicated, I wonder what Planned Parenthood of Indiana has to say about the fact that they refused to report alleged cases of molestation of a 13 year old by a 30 something year old man. They did not report these allegations despite the law of Indiana so unless you are going to criticize the patron saint of Abortion in America, your favorite and mine, Planned Parenthood, then you really have no grounds to criticize the church which does not receive public funds - like Planned Parenthood does.
Posted by: Clint Mahoney | March 11, 2009 at 08:43 AM
I see you're reading a book about the battle for "control of women's bodies". So I suppose allowing a man who has raped a child to murder the resulting child and hide his crimes is an example of a woman controlling her own body rather than (a child) or a man who has committed a crime erasing the evidence?
There have been many such cases exposed which suggest thousands more per year. Yes, let's teach our daughters that they control their bodies, thereby allowing abusive men to control them. This is far less barbaric than say... marriage.
http://www.bucksright.com/video-shows-planned-parenthood-skirting-statutory-rape-laws-2594
Posted by: Clint Mahoney | March 11, 2009 at 08:48 AM
Looks like Clint has an issue. I was raised in the Catholic Church and also feel it offers many things. Equal rights for women is not one of those things and it truly keeps me from "going back to the church." I have principles, too. My grandmother died from a botched abortion when it was illegal. So in spite of everybody in the Pro Life Movement knowing what is good for everyone else, they will never, ever stop abortion. I completely agree with what this doctor did. And the man who is responsible for impregnating this girl should be in prison for a long, long time. Clint, your sampling of women who talk about abortion like it's a second rape are in the minority. And btw, I've never had an abortion.
Posted by: Mary Corder | March 11, 2009 at 10:09 AM
I don't know if I believe that your grandmother died of a botched abortion but for every grown woman who died via botched abortions, there have been as many or more who have been documented as dying from botched legal abortions.
Have a look at the book Lime5 by Marc Crutcher it documents many women killed from botched abortions and includes the references so each death can be looked up in official coroners reports etc.
Also, in each "successful" abortion at least half the patients don't make it out alive.
Posted by: Clint Mahoney | May 04, 2009 at 11:31 PM